So far, I’ve deleted two comments from my post on the Duke Lacrosse Rape Case. Both commenters explained to me that sometimes women lie about rape, and that this hurts everyone! Rape is the only crime in which the victim is immediately viewed suspiciously. No one asks if a man who is robbed brought the robbery on himself.
Misogynists insist that they know better than I do. They insist that you just can’t trust a rape victim. I wonder if they will maintain that attitude when the rape victims are male?
Houston: A rapist targeting young men in a Texas refinery town has struck at least five times since April, stalking each victim in advance to make sure he’s home alone.
Is anyone asking if the men who were attacked wore tight pants (which would cause the rapist to lose control over himself)? Is anyone asking if the men locked their doors, or if they encouraged the rapist in any way? Is anyone insisting that the men who were attacked weren’t really raped? I hope not. These questions are disgusting, and no one who survives a rape should have to hear them. But women hear these remarks all the time.
Women who have been raped are often reluctant to come forward for fear of being ostracised or victimised again; for men those feelings can be even more amplified, police say.
In the Baytown attacks, police suspect even more young men have been assaulted, but they are ashamed to come forward. Some of the five known victims told police about the attacks after initially reporting a robbery, Clifford said.
“When you’re talking about the humiliation of being dominated and threatened with your life to perform sexual acts, it’s understandable.”
So men suffer more from rape than women do? I don’t think so. I don’t see men being treated as if they “asked for it”. What a shame we can’t support all people who’ve endured being raped. What a shame that gender has such a big role to play in how rape survivors are treated.
Going to leave an ignorant and/or offensive comment? Don’t bother, I’ll delete it.