Over at Rachels Tavern there’s a discussion on alcohol consumption and date rape. The original scenario:
Here’s a situation – A man and woman, both intoxicated, go home together and end up having some sort of sexual intercourse. The next morning they both wake up, except they both really can’t remember what happened. All they know is they woke up naked next to one another. Then the girl files a complaint of sexual assault.
Do you believe this was rape?
I think it’s a very tough call. There is no way to tell what was said or done once the 2 individuals began hooking up. I agree with admin’s advice…guys should not sleep with girls who are intoxicated. It can lead to bad things.
“guys should not sleep with girls who are intoxicated. It can lead to bad things.“
Now maybe I’m wrong, but the bad things seems to refer less to RAPE than to pesky, unfortunate allegations of rape lodged against innocent men. I hope I’m wrong.
I can also recall one episode when I was hitting on two beautiful young coeds only to wake up the next morning with their plain looking friend.
Golly, maybe that’s the bad thing we were warned of. He thought he was gonna tap two hot asses and instead woke up with equivalent of a blow-up doll.
Social diseases and the real possibility of a false claim are reason enough for young men to be careful in such situations. But we really need to stop this primitive thinking when it comes to women and sex. Men and women should enjoy the same notion of responsibility as well as privilege when it comes to sex.
“The real possibility of a false claim of rape”-it’s a dangerous world for men. Why aren’t we fighting for equal rights for men? Men will never be free until we end all of the false rape allegations. Everyone knows that rape is a rare crime. Yet countless men are savaged by these false claims leveled by uptight women.
You know what puts me on the verge of vomiting? Seeing this statement:
Men and women should enjoy the same notion of responsibility as well as privilege when it comes to sex.
used as evidence that women’s behavior needs to change. Sure, all men live in fear of being raped or being charged with rape. Women can go anywhere, anytime safely, but men are prisoners in their own homes. Women are safe at home, but men are raped by women they know more than by strangers. Men and women should enjoy the same responsibility and privilige, indeed.
I haven’t got the strenght to get into the comments, dear readers. I simply don’t have a strong enough stomach. The lowlights: 1) It’s too hard and not fair for a man to have to obtain consent, so consent should be assumed and 2) let’s talk about the rape of men, because that’s just as important, dammit!
I’m off to find my Mylanta.