Nubian created blogging against heteronormativity. Surf over to her site. She has a great post up, as well as a round-up of who’s participating.
I’ve debated and debated about what to write for this post. I was going to go with an analysis of heteronormativity: the assumptions, the privilege, and the consequences of this worldview. But I’m pissed, so I’ve decided to go with a rant instead.
Full disclosure: I have straight privilege. I hate privilege, but I can’t get rid of it. But you know what? The fact that some straight people can work through the concept of privilege and fight to get rid of it shows that everyone can do it.
One of my role models in college was giving a lecture on sexuality. A student asked what she thought about sexual orientation-was it inborn or learned? S snarled “Who cares whether it’s genetic or learned? People are people, they love who the love, and they are sexually attracted to whomever they find attractive. Who cares?“
That moment was 13 years ago, and it gave me the perfect framework for understanding sexuality*. We don’t need research supporting that sexual orientation is inborn, because it shouldn’t matter. Research on the nature of sexual orientation should be of academic interest only, it should not be what determines if we accept anyone who violates the standard of heteronormativity.
The only time someone’s sexuality should matter to you is if you want to have sex with that person. Otherwise, mind your business. Stop trying to control eveyone. Get over yourself. This human need to control others is the real sickness in our society.
*I am discussing sex that occurs between consenting adults.