A woman doctor telling someone that their perspective is to do with what’s happened to them in the past is all part of her (the doctor’s) denial process – I have had female counsellors tell me there is nothing wrong with porn – head fuck or what? I walked away from them thinking, I am more sane than them – they are the ones that need therapy. I thought “I’m not paying them to fuck me up even more”. They couldn’t deal with it, so it was passed on to other women – very very insidious and dangersous and even worse these days.

Count Another Goddamned Liberal in.

Pippi-Completely understood. Membership is restricted-you must apply to be accepted, and you must state why you’re interested in the group. Now, a troll could weasel past that, but that’s why I want other women moderating the group with me-any offensive messages, and not only is the message deleted, but the person is kicked out from the group and banned from joining. I’m happy to hear any other suggestions, because we are dealing with painful issues.

Jo-To think you didn’t strike that doctor! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. I wish I could say I was shocked, but unfortunately, the medical community is rather clueless.

Ms. Jared-You’re such a supportive woman! I’m actually not depressed right now, so I figured that was a good time to start a group.

Belledame-Thanks!

xoxo, jared

I really like your idea to set up a group because there is a need, for many of us, to talk about depression from a feminist perspective. This is something health professionals, largely, are not able to do and sometimes they alienate us by addressing the violence we’ve experienced as if it were a ‘personal problem’ that we alone need to resolve: we need to get over our ’sensitivity’ to all those things that are just part of ‘normal’ male behaviour (e.g. using porn).

I’m very weary about who I tell and what I tell them. There are several bloggers I trust (yourself included), but there is a larger number of bloggers that I don’t trust at all and who I know will use women’s experiences against them – by ridiculing them. I was wondering how we could minimize the possibility of this happening – make it as safe a place as possible?

Pippi

I’m happy to part time mod, if you like, but I tend to be a few-days-off-few-days-on-constantly person.